Aug 22 2016

Fight: 5 Week Men’s Course – Starts 10th October, Register Today!

Fight - Winning the Battles that Matter Most

In Fight, a five-session men’s study, we will explore and help you to uncover who you really are — a man created with a warrior’s heart in the image of God—and how to stand up and fight for what’s right.

Find the strength to fight the battles you know you need to fight — the ones that determine the state of your heart, the quality of your marriage, and the spiritual health of your family.  The battles that make you dependent on God as the source of your strength. The battles that make you come alive.

Learn how to fight with faith, with prayer, and with the Word of God. Then, when your enemy begins to attack, fight for the righteous cause that God gave you.

-Draw a line in the sand.
-Make your enemy pay.
-Make sure he gets the message.
-Don’t cross a warrior.
-Don’t mess with this man of God.
-Come out fighting.

And don’t show up for this fight unarmed.

Use the weapons God gave you, and you’ll win. Can you feel it? It’s inside you.

It’s time take a stand – it’s time to Fight. It’s time to fight like a man.

Starts Monday 10th October.  Register today.

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Aug 22 2016

Promise Keepers – Influence 7-8 October 2016

INFLUENCE AUCKLAND – Men’s Event 7-8 October 2016, join team ironmen

Promise Keepers - Influence

Right now your life is shaping your legacy.

Make sure it counts –
• Discover purpose and be a greater influence
• Find freedom and move forward in God’s blessing and power
• Equip yourself to make a difference

Never before in human history have we been able to reach so many so easily.

Who are you influencing now? Imagine yourself five years in the future, looking back at yourself today. What would you say to yourself about what is truly important?

Decide today to multiply your influence at PK 2016 at Victory Convention Centre, 7-8 October 2016.

SPEAKERS
Tak Bhana, Richard Brunton, Gary Colville, Tony Crawford, Adam Frost, David Goodman, Peter Goulter, Aaron Ironside, Andrew L’Almont, Bob McCoskrie, Tony McKeown, Paul Monahan, Aaron More, Michael Murphy, Tom O’Neil, Wayne Poutoa, Justin St Vincent, David Tua, Nick Tuitasi, Geoff Wiklund and more…
(Subject to change)

ELECTIVES
Now you can create your own PK experience tailor-made for your life situation. This year we have 25 electives on Saturday afternoon offering more flexibility, more speakers and more topics for you to choose from.
You can get fresh perspectives on topics relevant to you, whether you are young or old, single or married – or just want to improve your health, finances, spiritual wellbeing or ministry.

Decide to multiply your influence today! Get started now, join the ironmen team and get going to Influence 2016 Men’s Event!

The Top Seven Reasons that you need to come to Promise Keepers this year!
1. God is Changing Lives
In our busy lives it is important to set aside time to allow God’s power to impact us and transform us into extraordinary men.

2. Powerful Speakers
PK consistently asks the best men’s speakers available to step up and bring powerful words of challenge and encouragement.

3. Getting Together with a Group of Men
Enjoy the opportunity to be part of a larger group of men focused on Godly things. There is spiritual energy in this unique community of men. This is even more powerful if they travel to the Event together.

4. Awesome Music
We’ve scoured the land for music that men can – and want to sing to.

5. An Event Focused on Men
We know men and the issues you face and each Event is designed to meet your needs.

6. Wives Love It
Women are some of Promise Keepers’ greatest supporters because they reap the benefits of transformed men.

7. Men Get Fired Up!
Men often don’t need fixing up, they just need to be focused and fired up.

Will we influence the world for Christ, or will the world influence us?
– Billy Graham

Promise Keepers 2016

There is nothing more exciting and deeply satisfying than making a spiritual connection with the God of the Universe and experiencing His raw energy and power! As we draw near to the heart of God the Father, we can be filled so that His power flows through our lives. He can activate us to be powerful influencers for good and impact the nation. Our own human strength is not sufficient – we need God’s power to transform lives! Come to Promise Keepers with the ironmen team this year.

Promise Keepers have offered the men at ironmen a special discount of $69 per man and $59 per student for the full event.
However, this discount is only available by phoning Promise Keepers on 0800 PROMISE and registering under the ironmen group and only before the 26th August 2016.

This is your time!

Come to this year’s Promise Keepers Men’s Event with the ironmen team!


Jun 18 2016

4 Things Daughters Need From Their Dads

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News flash: parenting is demanding work. Always has been, always will be.

Part of the reason it’s difficult is that the moment that tiny person appears, we suddenly no longer come first in our self-centered little world. This precious bundle of burping, crying, sleepless joy now comes first.

4 things daughters need As dads, it can be a challenge to know how to nurture these adorable beings overflowing with feisty, fragile femininity. Many of us are still dealing with our own wounds from childhood while fighting every day just to protect our manliness in a world that seems hell-bent on attacking every corner of our hearts.

And it’s hard enough to deal with testosterone, a fairly familiar and predictable substance; now we’re expected to deal skillfully with this utterly foreign material called estrogen? Just the thought of it can be emotionally exhausting, especially for someone like me who usually just wants to be left alone to retreat into a dark, silent man cave at the end of the day.

Yet that is our calling, and these precious warrior princesses deserve nothing less than everything God has purposed for them to receive from their daddies. And no, I’m not talking about pink bikes, ballet lessons, and Frozen-themed parties. I’m talking about four things that our daughters need from their earthly fathers to know, deep down in their souls, that they are truly cherished and beloved.

The best part? These four things don’t require complicated strategies or hours-long time blocks. They can be done in small doses in everyday moments.

4 Things Daughters Need From Their Dads

1. Time

Sounds simple. But in our digitally distracted, turbocharged lives, time is the scarcest of resources. How much of it we do (or do not) give to our daughters speaks volumes to them about their value in our eyes.

And here’s something I’ve been learning about time: we can’t fracture it, splice it, dice it, or multitask it if we want it to be quality. We’re either all in or all out from our children’s perspective.

One of the saddest images to me is one I see at the playground: the checked-out parent, eyes down on the smartphone, trailing their toddler around the park, texting between swing pushes. That’s not presence. That’s not attention. That’s not being all in. And it’s easy to fall into; trust me, I get it. It’s one of the reasons my wife and I created three “no phone zones” as parents: the dinner table, the playroom floor, and the playground.

And if your daughter’s love language is quality time, this becomes even more important. The other weekend, my four-year-old wanted to play dolls, so we sat on the floor and played with the dollhouse for thirty minutes. The next morning, before she even came downstairs, she yelled to me, “Daddy, can we play dolls again?” It’s not so much that she wanted to play dolls — it’s that she wanted to feel more of daddy’s love. I’m just glad I had ears to hear in that moment what she was really asking me for.

They say kids spell love “T-I-M-E.” Dads, let’s give it to our daughters. Let’s be present, so they can truly believe that there is a Heavenly Father Who is their strength and “a very present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1).

2. Talk

Words matter. In fact, words are power. God created the cosmos through words. Similarly, as fathers we are continuously shaping our daughters through our words. Positive, affirming words are, in a very real way, infusing our girls with power and strength.

Conversely, harsh, negative words and criticism are sucking strength right out of them and bruising them in profound ways. And an absence of communication altogether can be just as harmful. A cruel, cynical, sexually violent world is waiting to step into that void.

Let’s secure the perimeter of our daughters’ hearts by talking about their uniqueness, our love for them, and God’s delight in them continually (as in, “when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise” (Deuteronomy 6:7).

And, by the way, tell stories. Talk about your childhood. Talk about Grandpa in the war. Talk about the day your daughter was born. Research has shown that kids who hear stories from their parents are more resilient and confident as they go out in the world. Tell them your stories, so that they can understand their own vital role in the beautiful narrative God is crafting around them.

3. Touch

As far as I can tell, the answer to the question, “What is my oldest daughter’s love language?” is … all of them.

Without a doubt, though, physical touch ranks highly. When I hold her gently and tickle her arms and back, I can describe it only as her melting in my lap. All of the anxious energy seems to dissipate as she goes limp in peaceful repose.

That’s what appropriate and loving physical touch can do. Oxytocin is the hormone released when humans engage in loving, gentle touch, like hugging, kissing, holding hands. It’s sometimes called “the bonding hormone.” It truly binds us together, and a lack of it, like a lack of affirming words, can create a void that inhibits trusting, intimate relationships throughout life.

Research has even shown that the more healthy touch that kids experience from their parents, the more uncomfortable any unwanted touch from others feels to them. In a world that is daily trying to molest our kids, mentally and physically, holding our daughters’ hands and hugging them in our arms is, in a very real way, protecting them from harm.

What better way to model for them their Heavenly Father, who gathers his children “in his arms and carries them close to his heart” (Isaiah 40:11)?

4. Tenderness

All three of these needs — time, talk, and touch — require the common element of tenderness. In some ways, this is the hardest thing for me as a father. It seems every day there are moments where I simply am not tender — I was too harsh, too terse, too indifferent. Sometimes it’s my speech. Sometimes it’s just because I’m tired. But that’s what love ultimately is: dying to my own needs and desires and putting those of my daughters first.

Often, I’m not as tender as I should be because I forget how delicate their hearts are. You’d think after fifteen years of marriage I’d be cognizant every moment that no matter how tough, independent, and formidable my wife and daughters may be externally, internally their feminine soul will respond only to tenderness from me (see Hosea 2:14).

But, I forget. I make mistakes. I blow it. Maybe you do too. And even though we’re imperfect, we serve a redeeming Father Who is perfect, and He gives us grace to give our daughters more time, more talk, more touch, and more tenderness tomorrow.

Ultimately, that’s the most important thing, because just like us, they’ll blow it too. As I learned at the roller-skating rink the other week, they will fall down, often, and our job is to help them up tenderly, tell them they can do it, and hold their hands as we take baby steps forward together. And if an afternoon roller-skating is in any way an accurate metaphor for life, I can promise you that the bruises and scrapes will be far outweighed by the joy and delight we’ll experience … hand-in-hand with our daughters.

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Mar 9 2016

Quest for Authentic Manhood – Starting Wednesday March 30th

The Quest for Authentic Manhood
Quest for Authentic Manhood: A 24-session DVD/workbook study that focuses on a man’s core identity and gives an overview of basic manhood issues. It will help men deal with various identity issues by looking back at past wounds and other things that may have distorted their idea of biblical masculinity. Throughout the course of the study, men will learn how to clearly define manhood and will finally be able to give a succinct and passionate answer to the questions, “What is a man?” and “What am I living to be?”

A few highlights:

-Five Manhood Promises
-The Four Faces of Manhood
-A Biblical Definition of Manhood
-Fathers and Sons
-Fathers and Daughters
-A Man and His Wife
-Genesis and Manhood
-Implications of the Heart Wound
-25 Practical Ways to be a Servant Leader
-A Man and His Life Journey
… plus many others

This highly recommended men’s course runs every fortnight on Wednesday night at Hebron Christian College from 7.30 – 9.30 pm. Previous participants of Men’s Fraternity Courses have said “good solid all round teaching, that is very practical”, “excellent teaching and presentation” and “a wealth of wisdom with sound advice, biblically delivered”.  Enrol today, by filling in the form below:

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Sep 28 2015

Dads, speak words of life into your children

I’ve always been a little jealous of King Solomon. When he took over as King of Israel from his father David, God appeared to him in a dream and invited Solomon to “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.” Hoping one day this happens to me, I’ve begun compiling a list of things I’d like and am currently ranking them in order of what I want most. Because of my love of the outdoors, right now owning the country of Switzerland is at the top.

Back to the story – you probably know how Solomon answers. He asks God for wisdom to lead the nation. God was pleased with this response and gave Solomon the understanding and discretion he asked for. Plus the answer was so good he also got everything else he didn’t ask for: wealth, long life, the death of his enemies, etc.

There is no exact age given for when Solomon took over for his dad, but most scholars agree he was in his middle to late teens. How many teenagers do you know are given a blank check for anything they want and they cash it in for wisdom? But that’s exactly what he did.

I’ve often wondered how Solomon knew to ask for wisdom and recently I found my answer! In 1 Chronicles 22:12, David is close to death and calls his son Solomon to his bedside and speaks this over him, “May the Lord give you discretion and understanding [a.k.a. wisdom] when he puts you in command over Israel, so that you may keep the law of the Lord your God.” David did not pray for his son to have wealth, long life or reprieve from his enemies. He prayed that he would have wisdom. And when Solomon was given a chance to ask for whatever he wanted, he knew what what was most important because of the words his dad had spoken over him and so he asked for wisdom. I wonder what Solomon would have asked for had David not put this in his heart by praying it over him?

This does serve as a great reminder to us dads to speak words of life and meaning into each of our kids. Solomon even said so himself when he wrote Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” And then again in Proverbs 25:11, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.”

Speak words of life you want to see in your children

I don’t believe we as fathers fully grasp the amount of life-changing power – for either good or devastation – that we possess when it comes to speaking into the lives of our kids. But we are the most powerful force and with that comes great responsibility and accountability. We must be intentional to speak words of encouragement and empowerment into our kids and we have to be intentional in controlling our tongues so we do not speak destructive words of death that haunt them for their entire life.

One thing I’m in the process of doing, and would encourage you to do as well, is to come up with five to seven words that are character traits you see in your child or are trusting God to give your child. For example, with one of my sons, the words I’ve come up with so far are: Strong, Courageous, Industrious and Loyal. I’m letting these words simmer for a few weeks as I pray over each of my four kids, asking God to give me the right words for each one. I’ll then take those words and create some type of poster and hang the words in their bedrooms. By doing this, every day they will be reminded of what I see in them and who God created them to be.

I may never own Switzerland, but if my kids grow up with their identity in Christ set and secure, I’ll take that over the Swiss Alps any day!

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